June Gloom

What's the cardinal rule for a child of divorce?

You don't talk to your mom about your dad and you don't talk about your dad about your mom.

My husband admonishes me for this often. But I want to know, who ARE you supposed to talk to?

Sure I discuss with my husband. But his parents have/had an amicable divorce. He thinks that his mom wishes she hadn't divorced his dad. Which I think provides him with a fluffy rosy colored safety net to encase all of his childhood angst.

I guess that I could talk to my closest friends. But I like my friends. And I want to keep them.

One particularly telling incident happened when one of my parents decided to freak out in front of one of girlfriends and her newborn baby. Afterward she uttered these words: I had no idea. All these years, I just thought you were making those stories up.

So maybe friends aren't the ones to unload the heavy burden of my parents and their unconventional choices.

I'm really struggling. Finding myself so stuck with this problem. The only solution I can see is intercontinental employment. *sigh*