Friday, May 29, 2009

A Slap In The Facebook

Last week I was complaining that no one ever asks to be my friend on Facebook. I'm always sending out and sending out the requests. Just now, I asked my husband how many friends he has. Then I nearly fell off the couch when he told me he's zeroing in on 500.

Not one person from my childhood or college years has sought me out. No old boyfriends. No flirtatious crushes of days of yore. No one from Student Council camp. Hell, I'm pretty sure almost every single one of my Facebook friends is someone I searched for and found.

So imagine my surprise when my former Stepmother recently commented on one of my cousin's photos.

History: My father, who had custody and was my primary caregiver, married Carol when I was five. We lived together for over ten years until the time that she told my father that either "she goes or I go". I ended up skipping a year of high school and living with my grandparents. Carol and my Dad divorced shortly thereafter and I drove myself to college.

I always think that I've dealt with all off this and it doesn't bother me anymore. However, as time goes by and my own children grow, I seem to get kind of murky my dealings and it brings up all kinds of issues and questions.

So, instead of making a therapy appointment, I did the next best cheapest thing. I clicked on the link that let me view all the people that my exStep is friends with. There were a few people her age. Most of my (half)sister's close friends. Suprisingly, she's friends with her first husbands child from his second marriage. But the real kicker, she's friends with my aunt. My father's sister. I had no idea my aunt was on Facebook. And guess what? She's never once requested to be my friend.

Blood may be thicker than water, but it's not friendlier on Facebook.

11 comments:

Reinvent Dad said...

Facebook is truly like electronic crack when you first sign up, begin searching, discover and add boatloads of "Friends", but with all the gimmicks, quizzes and the inevitable slowdown of locating new "friends", you eventually realize that it's actually kind of lame.

Rockzee said...

Wow. I feel like I don't know you well enough now. Sniff sniff.

And, be glad that your family doesn't follow you on FB. I get friended by old boyfriends and family members that I've lost touch with and trust me, it's not glamorous. In fact, it's super creepy.

Rise above it as you have all the other crap you've overcome so gracefully.

Miss Grace said...

I'd be facebook friends with you :)

Magpie said...

Facebook is weird. But I left you a comment there :)

TWISTED SUSAN said...

Be glad no one's looking you up on Facebook.

clickmom said...

I am quite positive that at some point in the not too distant future we as a society will be looking back at facebook with our 20/20 after the fact vision and hang our heads in shame and wonder how we could have gotten that distracted from what is really important. Just step away from the facebook. It's getting creepier by the second.

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