Have you seen it? If you haven't here is the trailer.
(Note: There is this scene where Pearl and the Blouse Man steal away to a riverbed which rivals all of the movie sex I have ever witnessed. Or maybe I am in dire need of a spa retreat with multiple shower heads.)
Later that day, I read this article titled "Phew! I'm not the only woman who hated sex while married." on the BlogHer homepage.
The article is based off a momlogic survey that found: Of the 2,500 married women who particpated in this poll, 50% said they found sex either depressing, embarassing or a hassle. Moreover, 29% said they were just too tired, 26% said they would rather read a book, and 23% had sex only because they wanted their husbands to be happy.
The author of the Phew! post summed up her thoughts by saying:
All I know for sure is that now that I'm single again and have discovered there's NOTHING wrong with my current sex drive, I'll never hand over my body like a plate of chicken again. I'll never make placations and excuses, nor have 'obligatory sex' again. Cause my body is an extension of ME; and ALL of me deserves to be treated like gold. And I now KNOW that a woman's body never lies. -Delaine
Okay. So here I am in the middle of just having seen one of the hottest sex scenes ever between a bored housewife and a blouse man and a divorcee who finds it easy to get excited about the prospect of sex with a new man.
I'm not a math genius, but I think we're comparing apples to oranges.
Yes, married sex is not the stuff that sells movie tickets. (Unless it's a comedy.) But as a married woman, I don't think it is fair to lump lackluster sex life as a symptom of a failing marriage. Add to that a panic inducing statistics and I am so far away from that waterfall in Upstate New York. I guess what I am trying to say, is I can see how it would be easy to have new sex with a new man and then say I used to hate sex with my husband. I think that you should call me after you've been having sex with the new guy for fourteen years and then we can compare notes.